With the youth fascinated with twerking, women striving ‘to have it all’, and men determined to retain their manliness, our society is putting aside more social graces and getting very crass. I know times are changing but shouldn't some social etiquette remain? I still think men shouldn’t curse in front of ladies and children. That's the way I was raised and the men in my life embraced that philosophy.
There was a time when the type of vocabulary a person used, defined the type of mentality an individual had. But as time marches on more, many men are pushing the envelope, and their constant swearing is having an effect on their relationships.
Did you know, a vast majority of women, 30 – 55 years old (70 percent) think that men that use profanity in front of them, have no respect for them.
• 60% of women believe swearing around women and children shows a lack of self-control.
• 86% believe it demonstrates lack of maturity and makes men look less intelligent (unless they’re upset,-- i.e. injured, being challenged by another man, or suffering a great loss).
The good news is, that when men use their words in a composed and concise manner, without any of the '@*&%' and '*%#!', it can leave a positive impression on their woman, colleagues, children, and bosses. (Just think of the men on People’s Sexiest Man Alive list and you’ll see most of them never curse frequently around women and children.)
While men should enjoy their habit of string various curse words together around their boys, but when they’re with their lady or on their job, it should be a different story. Resorting to foul language when things get rocky shows a lack of respect. Falling back on swear words to communicate a point is unprofessional and can show a lacks of self-control. Allow your ability to express a thought to be an example to others.
Cursing is a habit that adds nothing positive to a conversation, and in fact almost always leaves a negative impression. If you find yourself guilty of frequent profanity, you might do some soul-searching as to the reasons behind it.
Are you trying to project a certain image, perhaps based on trying to appear “cool” or ‘hard’? Is your habit a leftover from your sport playing day, a tough upbringing, or have you just forgotten to upgrade your language? Whatever the reason, understand the source of your foul language. Because research shows you may be more likely to advance in your career and deepen your relationships if you’re selective of when you use profanity.
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