All of us have parts of our past that we wish we could re-write but since we don’t own a time machine the only thing we can do is deal with our history. We need to take responsibility that we can’t re-write the past.
Pain is an inevitable part of life. Never think that you've been singled out for pain. We all seem to understand that physical pain takes time to subside, and as the wound or illness that caused the pain heals, the pain will ease. What we have more trouble with is realizing that emotional pain also takes time to heal.
The best way to get rid of painful and negative emotions connected to your past is to let them go. Learning to let go of the emotional suffering is extremely difficult. But if we learn to get some distance from our emotions, to stand back and observe them. We can see them more clearly.
And if your pain is because of a secret, take a safe person into your confidence. It will dull the isolating edge of a secret—and defuses the pain. Small secrets, like small stars can cool with time.