Okay, I know the world just discovered Kanye West proposed to his girlfriend of 18-months, Kim Kardashian. I am genuinely happy that Kanye is certain that the home he created with Kim is where he wants to be permanently. He understands their past, respects their core differences and similarities, weathered many difficult conversations, and still adores his woman. I bet you didn’t know most romance author are creating alpha males like him to sell novels. Remarkable, right?
Well Kanye knows married guys are mocked for given up their freedom and the media jokes that they’re emasculated. But he knows most happily married men don't mind the ribbing from their immature, misogynistic friends. Strong men can handle it all because, in truth, they know they have it way better than their single friends do.
Kanye has seen Jay Z and Beyoncè relationship get better with the bond of marriage and since he’s a father, he knows the time has come to make a firmer commitment or be fine with status quo.
I applauded him for taking his time and doing what feels right for him. He made sure this felt right for him by doing the things that would help any man make up his mind about marring his girlfriend:
He spent a lot of time with her – He understood you can’t build a forever relationship without spending a lot of time together to learn if this woman could give him what he needs emotionally and if he could reciprocate.
He got to know her family – Any man that would move in with his girlfriend’s family while his home is being built is really doing his own reconnaissance work. He was making sure his girlfriend lives her life on her own directives and not under the guise of a master puppeteer. He take the ‘cleave unto each other’ of the marriage vows very seriously.
He knows in his heart this woman is meant to be his wife – Yes, he had an initial attraction and friendship with his girlfriend, but over the course of 18 months he learned she has what it takes to be his life companion. That’s a tall order.
He’s only being pressured by himself - Kayne is one man that doesn’t let anyone push him around so he’s only proposing because he wants to and not due to peer pressure, others’ approval, or financial reasons.
She’s there for him and genuinely loves him – Yes, all of us know when someone is totally in love with us or when they are just tolerating us to get what they want (users). He clearly knows the difference and decided to get married.
Deciding to get married isn’t an easy decision. It’s a commitment to a lot of work to build a family with values and to stay united in good times and in adversity. I hope every guy that’s thinking of ‘putting a ring on’ his girl’s finger takes it as seriously as Kayne has. Congrats Kanye, Kim, and Baby North. Enjoy your life.
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