Jada Pinkett Smith Speaks About the Media Speculation on her Marriage

There are very few women that I consider friends in my head but Jada Pinkett Smith is one of them. On April 14th she cleared up one of her previous statements that led the media to believe she didn't deny the 'Open Relationship' rumors. Silly rabbits tricks are for... well, you know the rest of that catchy slogan.

After 16 years of marriage, Will and Jada must be doing something right.  They both speak highly of each other and appear to be very much in love.  I'll tell you one thing... if they ever did break up, I'm going to need a day off to recover. I'm a true romantic so it would be a big blow to my Pollyanna sensibilities.

Will and Jada give me hope along with Faith Hill and Tim McGraw, Grant and Tamia Hill, Kevin Bacon and Kyra Sedgwick, Rita Wilson and Tom Hanks.  In case you didn't get a change to read Jada's Facebook post, here's her complete statement.

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Open marriage?

Let me first say this, there are far more important things to talk about in regards to what is happening in the world than whether I have an open marriage or not. I am addressing this issue because a very important subject has been born from discussions about my statement that may be worthy of addressing.

The statement I made in regard to, "Will can do whatever he wants," has illuminated the need to discuss the relationship between trust and love and how they co-exist.

Do we believe loving someone means owning them? Do we believe that ownership is the reason someone should "behave"? Do we believe that all the expectations, conditions, and underlying threats of "you better act right or else" keep one honest and true? Do we believe that we can have meaningful relationships with people who have not defined nor live by the integrity of his or her higher self? What of unconditional love? Or does love look like, feel like, and operate as enslavement? Do we believe that the more control we put on someone the safer we are? What of TRUST and LOVE?

Should we be married to individuals who can not be responsible for themselves and their families within their freedom? Should we be in relationships with individuals who we can not entrust to their own values, integrity, and LOVE...for us???

Here is how I will change my statement...Will and I BOTH can do WHATEVER we want, because we TRUST each other to do so. This does NOT mean we have an open relationship...this means we have a GROWN one.

Siempre,
J

I think everyone should understand a marriage is between two people, not the media and the world.  We’ll never know the inner workings of someone else’s marriage and we really shouldn’t want to be privy to that information.

I know it’s the mother gene in Jada that’s making her clarify her statements to the world.  She understands her children are confronted with whispers and stares from intrusive adults and she just wants to ease their burden. I admire her protective nature.

Let’s give the Will and Jada marriage rumors a rest. They are working on loving each other every day. They are making choices to be faithful and loyal every day.  So their walk together is just that… their walk.  Let’s find our entertainment in more wholesome places, shall we? 

Thanks.