When I decided to go pass simply dating someone casually to a stronger bond of commitment, my relationship confidence doesn’t simply survive… it thrives. But here's the kicker: love in itself is seldom sturdy enough to support a couple when they inevitably run into bad things.
Countless couples out there cling to the sentimental, romantic notion of love expressed in pop culture. They believe that everything good in their relationship will get even better in time. But the truth is, not everything gets better.
Every successful relationship requires necessary compromises. For starters, forming a serious relationship with someone means coming to terms with new limits on one's privacy and independence. Like two weary soldiers taking cover in a bunker, every couple is bewildered by constant assaults to their love life. A relationship can be continually bombarded by unpredictable instances that interfere with being the kind of lovers they want to be. Couples can be torn apart by busy schedules, by words they wish they could take back, and by not giving all that the heart demands.
We can grow to know each other and to make better decisions about our relationships if we are realistic about the other important factors beside just romantic love. People can get hurt in relationships. For a couple who share a commitment to learning about each other's faults as well as perfections, feelings can mature and become something worth devoting their lives toward. The naivety of new love grows into a knowledgeable and confident love, one on which promises can be given in total confidence.