The best thing about being a romance writer is my creative playground is the world of love and relationships. I get to enjoy every aspect of two people realizing they’re meant for each other. And if things don’t work out between them, there’s a chance that God, fate, or whatever you want to call it, can intervene and bring them back together, like a wonderful movie sequel.
I’m enjoying creating the Sheridan series because writing romance pushes me to expand my views on relationships and men. My heart is optimistic and I understand love can change like a shape-shifter undergoing a marvelous transformation. I realize there are no perfect relationships but when you’re in your twilight years you should enjoy remembering the one that inspired intense longing, understanding, passion, and love. They’ll be the person that knew you so well; it felt like they were a part of you. This week, I was reminded to look back at my past relationships and evaluate who stood out.
Have you ever done that? Not after a breakup or when you come across an old memento, but to take a moment to contemplate the people that have crossed your path in life. Well, I think you should give it a try. The results may surprise you.
When I was in college, I learned about twin flames and soul mates from an old Seminole Indian philosopher and was astonished at the depths of love a person could achieve in a relationship. I learned to disconnect myself from the belief that you can only feel a true connection with one person in this life. Now, I’m not taking about polyamory or polygamy relationships; that’s not my cup of tea. I’m referring to having a deep bond with a person that goes beyond all level of understand. Some people refer to them as Twin flames or Soul Mates.
I’m sure you’ve heard people throw around the words ‘soul mate’ so often that I think we should hear harp chords playing in the background whenever the words are uttered. That’s because people equate it with the Twin Flame definition, but that’s okay. I’m happy they’re open to the possibility of finding their true match. If you aren’t familiar with either term, here are some brief definitions:
Twin flames have been defined as the spirit bisected into two, not one soul divided into two. It comes from the belief that God creates souls and then disconnects them to create men and women. That is why we have an inner pull to find our divine spouse. Twin Flames express love in its highest ideal, it’s natural, completely trusting, and pure. There are no expectations or demands to be fulfilled, or criterion to be met. It is based on an inner knowing that their love is unconditional. A special feeling seems to pass between them that is exciting.
Soul Mates are close reflections of our twin flame. They come in various forms such as siblings, friends, children, and co-workers, and only a few of them are actually romantic partners. They help us improve the way we love and live in this world. You should view soul mates as people in which you have a soul connection. When you meet them, there’s an instant liking, and you notice you have the same levels of: compassion, empathy, and life harmony. You can have a few soul mates in your lifetime but only one Twin Flame.
Take a moment and reflect on your past relationship, without any grief surrounding a love choice gone wrong or when you’re feeling a little lonely. Think about it when you’re in a positive space and ask yourself, “Did I meet any soul mates in my lifetime and have I already been in a relationship with my twin flame?” I’ve answered that question this week and I was surprised by the answer. Will you be?
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8/17/2012 06:00:05 am
This reminds me of the story in The Butcher's Wife, with Demi Moore that I just watched over the weekend. Hadn't seen the movie in years, but I hadn't forgotten her belief in "split aparts"- soul mates, twin flames.
8/19/2012 06:59:23 am
I do consider myself very lucky to have be know and been loved by my twin flame. Blessed beyond belief.
8/18/2012 08:49:03 am
Thank you for the article. I actually married my twin flame a couple months ago. We found each other again after 20 years and knew this was it. Going on 3 years as a couple and can't wait for what the future holds. He is my other half and he feels the same. We both described the 'pull' mentioned in your article to each other. So believe me its true.
Congratulations K.T., Your Twin Flame love story is truly a romantic sequel. Always cherish the bond between you and understand that every challenge is just the universe's way of helping you make your relationship strong. Think of any life difficulties as a 'refiner's fire' and always depend on each other when they arise. Thanks for stopping by.
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