I’ve met some very interesting people during my research for Wild West and learn some wonderful love stories at the same time. At one point in my research a group of single ladies explained to me how hard it is to find a man that could
appreciate a good woman.
So I said to them, "You know what happens when you get all dressed up to attend some club or singles events? Everybody is looking for items on their external checklist.
They are looking for an attractive person, but I can assure you that there will always be somebody more handsome and beautiful than whom they'll find. They are looking for someone very intelligent, and I can assure you that there is always going to be someone more intelligent. They are looking for someone funny, but that there is somebody even funnier just around the corner. They are looking for someone successful, and I can guarantee you that there is someone even more successful. So the checklist won’t get you closer to love. You just need to take a chance and talk to people.”
When you size up people externally, I explained to the ladies, you will always find someone better looking, more intelligent, funnier or more successful. But when you look at someone on the inside, when you look at their true self, their soul, you will never find anyone who can compare. And if you let people see your spirit then they will never find anyone who can compare with you.
God made all of us unique and incomparable. And when you relate as a soul to another soul, your true self will radiate a brilliant divine light. The more that you can reveal yourself as a soul, the easier it will be to find your true life partner (your soul mate, a bashert or a zivug). People are not looking for their body mate; they are looking for their soul mate. But we delude ourselves and put on psychological clothing that doesn't fit. Personal growth begins with being real about who you are so you can become the person you want to be.
Besides, how many times have we met someone that was nice-looking and the longer we talked to them the more attractive they became during our interactions? We need to open our heart to God’s intentions for our lives and receive our
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